So here’s something I never thought I’d do in a church blog, I’m about to quote an Aerosmith song!
“There’s something wrong with the world today,
I don’t know what it is.
Something’s wrong with our eeeyyyyyyyeeesss.
We’re seeing things in a different way,
and God knows it ain’t his.
It sure ain’t no surpriiiiiiisssseeee……………. we’re livin’ on the edge”
Thanks Steven Tyler! This fits in perfect with our Margin series we just got done with! What is it about human nature that makes us want to be teetering on the edge in every area of our lives?!? We’re one bad paycheck away from disaster, one flirty email away from an affair, and one volunteer job away from a nervous breakdown!!! Do any of us realize it doesn’t hafta be this way?!?!?
These were the 3 areas covered in our Margin series, time, money, and moral margin. We’re lacking margin severely and need to seriously think about incorporating it into our lives!
Starting with “time”, it seems that society is telling us that if we’re busy, we’re important. Or that busyness=success. Unfortunately this mentality has just caused us to exhaust ourselves and typically, we end up pushing the most important things to the back burner. I.E. our kids, spouses, friends…….relationships all together because who has time to just sit around and hang out anymore?!?!
The next week we moved onto financial margin. Cue the scary orchestra music!!! My own personal lack of financial margin became painfully clear this winter. We don’t live an extravagant life style but it has been the trend that the more money we make, the more we spend. So we have a big enough mortgage, car payments, credit cards (totally my fault since I love to shop!) and then my husband got injured and couldn’t work for 3 months. Ooohhh financial margin, where are you when I need you?!?!? Needless to say, we were hanging onto the fairly normal lifestyle we have by the skin of our teeth! We’re still in recovery from this and I’m hoping we finally learned a lesson from it! It doesn’t have to be that way. If we’d set some good margins, we could handle an emergency like this. On a different note, so many people are working themselves to death just so they can keep up with their neighbors as far as who has the newest car, the best pool, the most toys…… we seriously need to rethink what success actually means. Yeah, you have all the latest and greatest, but y’all barely know your kids or your spouse cause you’re working nonstop! It totally ties right back into “time margin”!
The last week was about moral margin. I’ve seen many marriages fall apart from people not setting these margins 🙁 Pastor Josh said he’s had so many people say that they never thought it would happen to them. I believe that! Typically people don’t go out looking for an affair or an addiction to pornography, it’s tiny little baby steps that lead up to it and if we’re not keeping ourselves in check it can happen to any of us!
Pastor Josh compared it all to a cliff and seeing how close you can get to the edge without falling off. Why do we sabotage ourselves that way? I truly believe that everyone has their own distance to their “cliff” in each of these areas. By far my shortest walk off the edge comes in the financial margin! If I have $20 and a few minutes, I’m heading to Marshall’s! But there are other people who could walk into a 90% off sale and not be tempted to spend a penny! (I SOOOO DON’T UNDERSTAND THAT!!!!) I’m a shopper, and if I’m serious about setting financial margins, I hafta stay away from the mall because I know I can’t be trusted! It’s the same concept for any of the other areas. If you struggle with moral margin, It’s probably not a good idea to go to lunch with your good looking co-worker! If you’re the person who’s schedule is so full you don’t have time to sleep, then don’t go to that PTO meeting where you know they’re going to ask for volunteers for EVERYTHING!!!! We set ourselves up for failure by putting ourselves in these situations, it’s time to be smarter than this! Take a moment to recognize where you might struggle most and then guard yourself and your family from it like your life depends on it! It’s so important to set margin in ALL of these areas and to check in on your margins occasionally because they can move without us noticing! I highly recommend reading thru the book of Proverbs if you’re ever looking to backup any of these ideas. It’s packed full with a ton of wisdom on these topics!
Make sure your not so close to the edge that a gentle breeze can push you over! Set your margins so that even a hurricane couldn’t get you to fall 🙂